As I decided that my day was going to be a crappy one I received a call on Monday and was asked to go to the hospital to pray with a 42 year old man who was on his death bed. I never “enjoy” those types of request. Not because I don’t like supporting and loving the family who is going through the difficult time but because it’s never easy to try and bring comfort to such an uncomfortable situation. Thankfully the grace of God always prevails. I quickly realized that my crappy start of the day wasn’t even close to what I was about to face.
Today I had to have the “talk” with the wife about making the decision to remove life support. WOW! Talk about brutal. A wife and 2 very young and beautiful children are now filled with a myriad of questions. Questions that any of us would be asking if we were in the same position as they are at this very moment. Every time I’m in these types of situations it causes me to be reflective of my own life. Here are some thoughts that I’ve mediated on over the last 48 hours.
1: Live in and enjoy every moment you are given: American culture is bombarded with business and stress. As a result we miss so much of the little moments in life. A conversation with our children. A walk on the beach with our spouse. Or lunch with a friend. At the end of the day those moments are what create memories that we will cherish for the rest of our lives. So live in and enjoy every moment with which you are blessed.
2: Cherish your relationships: I’m amazed how often I take the relationships in my life for granted. An alarming and surreal reality is that those relationships that we take for granted won’t be there forever. I don’t ever what to have to say “I wish I had.” I want to be able to say “I’m glad I did.”
3: Most of the things that seem like a big deal today won’t matter tomorrow: 5 days, 5 weeks, 5 months or 5 years from now…. it probably won’t matter. All of us have the uncanny ability to focus so much attention on things today that probably won’t matter tomorrow. As a result relationships are ended, hurtful things are said, mistakes are made and hearts are broken. All because we made a big deal out of something that we probably could have just let go. Proverbs 15:1 says that a soft answer turns wrath away but grievous words stir up strife. We should learn to pick our battles and choose the hills upon which we will die… and then everything else we should just let roll off our back.
4: Death is always a necessary ending: There is absolutely no escaping it. And I don’t care what your belief system is – we all die. We can agree on that. But what many won’t agree to is that there is some form of life after death. I happen to embrace a reality of an after life that is rooted in eternity. My finite mind can’t comprehend eternity but I’m pretty certain it’s longer than the average life span of 75 years of age. What’s amazing is how many of us give every minute of our day to this short span of life we are given here on this earth. In the grand scheme of things we probably should be giving more attention to eternity than we do to earthly… after all, eternity will be…. well, forever.
Life is short. Say “I love you” a lot. Kiss and hug your kids. Enjoy your spouse. Play with your friends. Live life to it’s fullest. Embrace eternity. And in everything, give thanks…. for this is the will of God.